by Gina Jacobson, a mom, a leo. She works for a non-profit organisation, is a procrastinator, loves sci-fi, sushi, good books and scrabble.Her blog is made up of A Bit of This a Bit of That.
Last year for Mother’s day we were supposed to go to the Johannesburg Zoo for the Mother’s Day concert with my mother-in-law (MIL) and then onto a braai with my mom, the weather wasn’t great and we landed up having breakfast in Melville with my MIL and then went to my mom. It turned out ok.
This year my MIL informed us that she was going to the Mother’s Day at the zoo whether we came with or not, that is what she wanted to do. She said to me that my mother was invited as well, as there was no reason why we can’t all celebrate together.
I spoke to my mom and, as expected, she didn’t want to go to the concert. I asked her if she wanted to do tea that afternoon or dinner that evening, I also explained that we had a birthday party for a friend of Aaron’s in the morning and she was very non-committal.
Later she sent me a message saying that she was upset that we were putting my MIL first. I told her that we were not, that I gave her two alternatives for us to celebrate and that she brushed me off. To date we still haven’t made an arrangement with my mother.
I almost feel like cancelling the whole day altogether. What about me? I’m a mother too! What about what I want to do? I’m sure the concert will be lovely, I’m sure that tea or dinner with my mother will be great too. But what about me and my little family, when do we get to celebrate?
The whole thing has soured Mother’s Day for me this year and I really just don’t feel like participating.
Am I being overly sensitive? Should I just forget the whole thing or get over myself and try and enjoy the day? How do you deal with Mother’s Day when there are mommies and grannies and even great grannies involved?