By Fatima Kazee, mum to a professor, a super hero and a little princess. Part-time wife to a fanatical fisherman. She’s addicted to sneakers anything chocolatey & is an invaluable member of the Jozikids and Kznkids team.
At the outset and as mentioned in my previous posts, I’d like to make clear that I am not a doctor nor do I profess to be qualified in identifying any sort of medical conditions. What I can say is that I am a mother who would do anything to the ends of the earth for her children and their well-being. So in my relentless pursuit to debunk this ADHD theory I have been there and back and have reached what I believe are some significant conclusions. (Please note once again that these are my personal findings and experiences and I am sharing them to anyone who wants to take the time and effort to make sense of things)
As my son began his grade 4 year I was riddled with stress about how he would cope. It’s no secret that he struggles to sit still and concentrate and now that school was getting serious, what would we do? Mind you, he actually coped very well. He had the most loving and understanding class teacher as well as great subject teachers. He finished the term with surprisingly good results. But all this while, we were looking for an alternative school for him. And in doing so, a few of the schools required that he complete an educational assessment. And here’s where my mind was changed about ADHD completely. His scores show that he is an above average child with a high IQ – which then led me to ask the question: does he take in more information that makes him above average and does this then impact on how he reacts to the world?
Because to me this makes sense (in the context of many other things I’ve come across along the way).
- If you take in more information than an average person, chances are that you’re likely to be more sensitive to your surroundings. Like sound and light and distractions.
- Maybe because you have more information going on in your head you’re more likely to blurt out answers or questions, simply as a result of your mind being somewhere else.
- Perhaps the behavioural issues are caused by the extra stimulation to the brain and this makes kid’s unable to sit still, fidget, or jump around…
- Or whine and throw tantrums (just as other kids do) because there’s a lot going on that little brain.
- Is there a possibility that having a higher IQ makes a child easily bored and therefore he requires a different way of learning?
So is it at all possible that he is a highly intelligent child that is highly sensitive to his environment? Can it be that certain people don’t know how to deal with a child like him or they lack the patience? (Because it takes nerves of steel to deal with him sometimes) Dare I say it, are we possibly too busy in our lives to take the time to understand these kids better? Is it not true that ADHD medication alters your mind and thinking? Why then would I as a parent want to suppress my child’s intelligence and abilities by giving him medication? Because I want him to be like all the other average kids?
Sure the behavioural challenges are there, but does it justify putting my child on medication for epilepsy to calm him down when he is not epileptic?! Why is this so easily prescribed to a 7 year old child? My concern is simple: is medication the first and best solution?