By Lorian Phillips, a clinical psychologist and mother of two ADHD sons. Due to her challenges with her boys, she developed a parenting course for parents of ADHD children. She consults with parents in her private practice and speaks at schools to help teachers. She also writes for Impaq which provides innovative and accessible education solutions for homeschoolers.
We are always hearing about the difficulties experienced in raising and parenting ADHD children (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder/attention deficit disorder). Now it’s time to look at the many positive character traits ADHD children have which can help them to thrive and succeed.
Please note that every child is different. They may have the same diagnosis but they all have their own temperaments, characteristic and personalities. The list that follows is a generalisation and does not apply to everyone.
It’s often extremely difficult to tear our kids away from something they are interested in. When this is a wonderful hobby, a subject they are interested in or learning a new skill, this hyperfocus is a gift and keeps them on track for hours on end.
Adventurous and Curious
Adventurous, curious and hyperactive are also characteristics used to describe ADHD children. When channeled constructively they are fantastic qualities often used to describe entrepreneurs and successful businesspeople. In work and life, these are very positive qualities when used effectively.
Resourceful and Inventive
ADHD children can be incredibly resourceful, innovative and inventive. I have watched my one son use his artistic talent to sell his works online, get commissions from others and earn money on the side (this was at 16 years old). This is a good example of how these children can think out of the box and in a lateral way which helps them get ahead.
Kind and Forgiving
And lastly, ADHD children are often incredibly forgiving, good-hearted and gregarious. This helps them in their interaction with others. I am grateful for these qualities when I think back on my early struggles with my eldest son. We had some hard times but over time have become so close and connected. Thank goodness for his forgiving, good-hearted nature!
Parents of children with this condition often feel desperate and extremely frustrated. In these moments don’t forget the positive qualities!
Just think of Albert Einstein who only started talking at two yrs old. His teachers constantly saw him as a poor student. Today, he is recognised as having been ADHD. Read Einstein’s own insightful thoughts on the matter:
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid”.
This is often what happens with ADHD children in the school environment.
Richard Branson, Walt Disney, Justin Timberlake, Michael Phelps.
They are beautiful examples of ADHD people.
Now go and give your child a big hug!
This article was supplied by Impaq Education which provides all the products, services and tools you need to educate your child at home from Grade R to Grade 12.