{"id":6054,"date":"2013-02-07T14:56:07","date_gmt":"2013-02-07T12:56:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/responsive.jozikids.co.za\/zaparents\/?p=6054"},"modified":"2022-06-22T09:54:09","modified_gmt":"2022-06-22T07:54:09","slug":"we-spend-what-on-our-kid","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/lifestyle\/finance\/we-spend-what-on-our-kid\/","title":{"rendered":"We spend WHAT on our kid?!?"},"content":{"rendered":"

In response to last month\u2019s article on grocery spend<\/a>, I was referred to a website called \u2018Free Our Kids \u2013 The toddler and me and our year for free\u2019. This UK mommy has undertaken to stop spending on her toddler. For a YEAR!<\/p>\n

Her rules:<\/h2>\n

1) No buying of kid-specific food.
\n2)\u00a0No kiddie clothing and shoes.
\n3) No toys. Expensive or otherwise.
\n4)\u00a0No extra-curricular\u00a0activities or group classes (school obviously excluded).
\n5) No disposable nappies (Wow!)
\n6) No professional haircuts.
\n7) No professional childcare more than 3 times a week, when she works.<\/p>\n

Is she mad<\/i>? That was my first thought. And then I put my skepticism in my pocket and had a look at what she\u2019s actually saying (check it out yourself).<\/p>\n

It\u2019s pretty cool. This mum, Harriet, got retrenched. So she was forced to look at what she and her husband were actually<\/em> spending. And they were horrified.<\/p>\n

Excluding school, their annual spend was R80,000. But the cool toys, music classes, fancy prams and organic ready meals weren\u2019t making little Johnny (his real name) happier, healthier or smarter. His folks were just getting poorer.<\/p>\n

And not just them.<\/p>\n

The Daily Mail<\/i> says that the second biggest source of mom-worry (after not being able to spend enough time with our kids) is not being able to afford what they want.<\/p>\n

So which of the 7 things above could I – and you – stand to stop spending on? \u00a0Not because I\u2019m anticipating retrenchment, but because consumerism is<\/i> at an all-time high, non-recyclable waste is<\/i> piling up and disposable income is<\/i> tight for everyone\u2026 \u00a0Let\u2019s look:<\/p>\n

1) Kid-specific food<\/h3>\n

Thank goodness our two-year-old doesn\u2019t eat specific foods. At home she eats grown-up food. At restaurants she shares with us. And her snacks are the usual pretzels, biltong, mini biscuits, raisins, fruit, cheese, etc. Processed baby food nearly bankrupted me when she was eating that stuff, because I refused\u00a0<\/i>to cook it fresh. But those days are thankfully gone. You?<\/p>\n

2) Kiddie clothing<\/h3>\n

We buy this very seldom, largely thanks to family hand-me-downs – which are usually gorgeous – and generous grannies. The only things we\u2019ve bought our daughter this season are a bathing suit and a winter dressing gown (she has a strange obsession with dressing gowns). Could I stop buying her the odd lovely thing, for a whole year? Probably. But I won\u2019t. Because I enjoy it and because almost all of that moolla comes from my former clothing budget.<\/p>\n

3) Toys<\/h3>\n

We haven\u2019t bought new toys in ages. She\u2019s into books now. And drawing. And the inside of the loo roll. And plastic cups. And the calculator. But I\u2019d love to do a swap with my friends, circulating some of our stuff to new homes and vice versa.<\/p>\n

4) Group classes<\/h3>\n

We did Baby Gym. We did Baby Massage. We did Kindermusik. We did Clamber Club. We loved all of them. Now that she\u2019s at school, the only class my kid attends is swimming once a week. And I\u2019m not giving that up. But I do<\/i> get how kids can be entertained, with the same measure of stimulation, at home and at friends\u2019 houses.<\/p>\n

5) Disposable nappies<\/h3>\n

Nope. Not doing reusables. No chance. Sorry.<\/p>\n

6) Salon haircuts<\/h3>\n

She\u2019s never had a salon haircut. I\u2019ve cut her fringe once and my husband\u2019s cut it once, and both haircuts were utterly disastrous<\/i>. But hopefully we\u2019ll get better with time, because I see no reason whatsoever to take her to a hairdresser. She won\u2019t sit still for long enough anyway.<\/p>\n

7) Childcare<\/h3>\n

This is a tough one. For some moms, even those who don\u2019t work, some childcare is critical. So I\u2019m not sure this line item should be negotiable. It may be worth shopping around, roping in loving grandparents and doing exchanges with close friends, but how moms feel about childcare is so personal that I can\u2019t (or perhaps I\u2019m too scared to) generalise about it.<\/p>\n

Oy vey. I didn\u2019t do very well. I\u2019m only prepared to consider 3 of 7. What do you think? Is she mad? Am I? What are your personal tips for cutting back?<\/strong><\/p>\n

This article was originally written for Jozikids by Tiffany Markman in 2013.<\/em><\/p>\n

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