{"id":5316,"date":"2012-10-02T07:36:07","date_gmt":"2012-10-02T05:36:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/zaparents-blog\/?p=5316"},"modified":"2022-06-21T09:52:47","modified_gmt":"2022-06-21T07:52:47","slug":"clarity-clarity-clarity-giving-kids-instructions-in-a-way-they-can-really-understand","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/parenting\/being-present\/clarity-clarity-clarity-giving-kids-instructions-in-a-way-they-can-really-understand\/","title":{"rendered":"Clarity, clarity, clarity! Giving kids instructions in a way they can really understand"},"content":{"rendered":"

Have you ever walked into your child\u2019s room after you specifically asked them to clean it up and found it looking like they\u2019d invited a Rhino to tea instead? Why is it that we ask and ask and ask for something to get done and it doesn\u2019t seem to happen? Or if it does, it is faaaar from our expectations of how it should have been done.<\/p>\n

As I always say to parents, if you\u2019re having some problem with your child, first stop and see if there is something that you<\/em> need to be doing differently.\u00a0 And what most parents will find in the above scenario is that they are not being clear enough about what they want. Little children particularly need clear instructions in small chunks. Saying something like \u201cClean up your room\u201d is far too general and can even create a feeling of being overwhelmed and confused resulting in nothing at all being done. If you have a certain expectation, then you, as the adult, need to make this very clear and break it up into instructions that your child can understand and easily accomplish.<\/p>\n

So, \u201cclean up your room\u201d might better be expressed by saying, \u201cOK, firstly I want you to pick up all the books on your bed and put them back in the bookshelf. Now I want you to put the teddy bears back in their box. Now take all the crayons and pack them in the pencil case. Now put the pencil case in your bag for tomorrow. Now take your dirty clothes to the wash basket\u2026\u201d Can you see that what seems to be a simple task of \u201ccleaning up your room\u201d is in fact multiple, and fairly complex, tasks put together?<\/p>\n

The trick is to be very specific and very clear about what you want and to break it up into manageable chunks.<\/p>\n

Now keeping in mind that your unconscious mind is like five-year old child, this is exactly what you need to do when you start to focus on what you want in your own life. Your unconscious mind is like the ultimate servant to you, bringing to your attention everything that you have asked for \u2013 but you need to give it clear, simple instructions. Focusing on \u201cmore money\u201d for example may just bring you 5 cents more. Be clear \u2013 How much more? By when?\u00a0 By doing what?<\/p>\n

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