“There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendships”, \u00a0Thomas Aquinas.<\/p>\n
Remember how much time you used to spend with your friends as you were growing up?\u00a0 They became more and more important to you as you got older and in fact, may have helped shape you into who you are today. And then life happened and you seem to have little time for yourself let alone time with friends, right?<\/p>\n
Well, I have 3 best friends (that\u2019s BFF\u2019s for millennial’s), one I\u2019ve known since I was 10, 1 since early in high school and 1 since varsity.\u00a0 That\u2019s roughly over 30 years of solid friendship combined!<\/p>\n
We make it a point to meet up at least once a month, for a meal together, sometimes a specific outing or just to hang out (whatever it is, there\u2019s always food involved) Let me tell you, I feel revitalised after every time we meet.\u00a0 It really is therapeutic, tons of laughter, silliness, reminiscing and of course, complaining and venting.<\/p>\n
See, each of us has a very different personality.\u00a0 We all have jobs and careers in diverse fields and all of us have kids of different ages.\u00a0 We each bring to our friendship something that the other needs in terms of spirituality and faith, drive to succeed, humour and unconditional love.<\/p>\n
We use each other as sounding boards for our motherhood dilemmas, our marriages and our relationships with others. We may not always see eye to eye but we know that we always have each other.\u00a0 The comfort in knowing that is priceless.<\/p>\n
Friendships bring out the best in us.\u00a0 It\u2019s good to know that you have people you can trust, people you can rely on and people who will be honest with you when you need it most.\u00a0 At times, we need someone to be objective or just to pull you out of the hole you feel you\u2019re in.<\/p>\n
And as motherhood progresses and our kids reach various milestones, we need each other as support as well as guides and reference points for the strange things that sometimes occur in families with kids. (What\u2019s with this Fortnite addiction? How do I get my daughter to shower more than once a week<\/em>?\u00a0 Where can I get free range Halaal chicken?)<\/p>\n Those aren\u2019t the only friends.\u00a0 There are school friends, moms (and dads) of our kids\u2019 friends.\u00a0 These are valuable resources of homework information, play dates and lift clubs.<\/p>\n There are work friends who all have such different backgrounds that they give me all I need, to see the bigger picture.\u00a0 The young widow, the divorcee, those struggling with family politics and the adoptive mum.\u00a0 The one who has boundless energy and dedication to her family and the one that is an absolute Masterchef.<\/p>\n They keep me grounded, keep me real and keep me realising that everyone has a story.<\/p>\n There are friends that will always keep in contact, just a simple phone call or message.\u00a0 I’m guilty of not doing enough of that, just touching base every now and then.<\/p>\n We need these friendships and we need to make time for them.\u00a0 Time away from our kids and husbands shouldn\u2019t make us feel guilty.\u00a0 They aren\u2019t able to give us all we need in terms of relationships and we sometimes can\u2019t entirely be ourselves like we are with our friends.<\/p>\n Remember to fill your cup, so you can pour out the love and energy on your friends.<\/p>\n This article was originally written for Jozikids by Fatima Kazee in 2018.<\/em><\/p>\n Note: If you enjoyed this article, and would like to stay updated with more, you can:<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n We need these friendships and we need to make time for them.\u00a0 Time away from our kids and husbands shouldn\u2019t make us feel guilty.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":149,"featured_media":351257,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[281,118],"class_list":["post-16380","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moms-mothers-single-mothers-being-a-mom","tag-friendship","tag-motherhood"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16380","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/149"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16380"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16380\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/351257"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16380"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16380"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16380"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Other friendships that keep the wheels of life rolling<\/h3>\n
Dont be a martyr – enjoy your mum-friendships!<\/h3>\n
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