{"id":15620,"date":"2018-03-01T10:12:30","date_gmt":"2018-03-01T08:12:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/responsive.jozikids.co.za\/zaparents\/?p=15620"},"modified":"2022-06-21T10:49:53","modified_gmt":"2022-06-21T08:49:53","slug":"bullies-and-bullying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/parenting\/bullying\/bullies-and-bullying\/","title":{"rendered":"Bullies and bullying"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: revert; color: initial;\">Bullying isn\u2019t an inevitable part of growing up. Research shows that whether your child is being bullied, being the bully, or watching their friend being bullied, they need help. It affects everyone (even you as parents) and often has a major impact on children&#8217;s developing sense of self, school performance and self-esteem (even into adulthood).\u00a0 Often it&#8217;s emotionally terrifying &#8211; silently imprisoning kids in shame, feeling worthless and desperate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>From shoving, hitting, mocking, threats, name-calling, shunning, spreading rumours or exclusion tactics to forcing victims to do or give them things, bullying is any ongoing\/repetitive intentional tormenting.\u00a0 Cyber-buylling \u2013via electronic messaging, online chatroom&#8217;s, the internet and social media \u2013 is even more complex and has become a major problem worldwide.<strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>Bullying: Warning signs in children<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>depression and anxiety<\/strong> &#8211; often seen as a nervousness and loss of interest in usually enjoyable activities<\/li>\n<li><strong>strong feelings <\/strong>of sadness, loneliness, worry and fear<\/li>\n<li><strong>disturbances in sleep<\/strong> and eating patterns<\/li>\n<li><strong>health complaints<\/strong> &#8211; poor appetite, headaches, abdominal pain, tiredness<\/li>\n<li><strong>school refusal <\/strong>&#8211; skipping class, or dropping out<\/li>\n<li><strong>performance<\/strong> deteriorates<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>In cases of cyber-bullying<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>loss of\/obsessive <strong>interest<\/strong> in the computer and cell phone<\/li>\n<li><strong>won\u2019t talk<\/strong> about what&#8217;s going on<\/li>\n<li>gets <strong>stressed<\/strong> when receiving e-mail, texts or instant messages<\/li>\n<li><strong>withdrawing<\/strong> from family and friends<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Remember, bullying is about power, where those with the lowest self-esteem (i.e. the least power) become the victims.\u00a0 Those who bully have unfortunately learnt to feel powerful in destructive ways, and are often doing so from their own previous emotional hurt. \u00a0Although children may respond differently, they will rarely admit that they\u2019re being bullied (even if you have a close relationship.)\u00a0 This makes it vital to learn more about bullying and seek help for your child. Become involved &#8211; check whether your child\u2019s school runs anti-bullying awareness campaigns and has a policy of how to deal with bullying.\u00a0 The best antidote is to help build their self-esteem.<\/p>\n<p>To find out more about Carol&#8217;s educational games, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/listing\/raising-kids-positively\/\">click here <\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Note: If you enjoyed this article, and would like to stay updated with more, you can:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em>Subscribe to our free weekly Jozikids\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/member-registration\/\"><em>newsletter<\/em><\/a><em>\u00a0 for parents in Gauteng<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>Like us on <\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/jozikids.co.za\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Facebook<\/em><\/a><\/li>\n<li><em>Follow us on\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/instagram.com\/jozikids?igshid=1n8cwedrewul\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Instagram<\/em><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bulling isn\u2019t an inevitable part of growing up. Research shows that whether your child is being bullied, being the bully, or watching their friend being bullied, they need help. It affects everyone (even you as parents) and often has a major impact on children&#8217;s developing sense of self, school performance and self-esteem (even into adulthood).  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":163,"featured_media":15621,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[149],"tags":[403,870],"class_list":["post-15620","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bullying","tag-cyberbullying","tag-teen-suicide"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15620","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/163"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15620"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15620\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15621"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15620"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15620"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15620"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}