{"id":14374,"date":"2017-03-16T20:39:08","date_gmt":"2017-03-16T18:39:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/responsive.jozikids.co.za\/zaparents\/?p=14374"},"modified":"2022-06-21T10:55:44","modified_gmt":"2022-06-21T08:55:44","slug":"tips-for-positive-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jozikids.co.za\/blog\/parenting\/being-present\/tips-for-positive-parenting\/","title":{"rendered":"12 tips for positive parenting"},"content":{"rendered":"

Is positive parenting simply about being \u2018positive\u2019 towards our kids? Is it about talking positively instead of negatively, or disciplining without loosing your cool?<\/span><\/p>\n

Psychologists know that a close parent-child relationship motivates our kids to behave from a place of care and love (not from fear).Actually positive parenting is about focusing on what\u2019s right with your children and intentionally strengthening the relationship you have with them.<\/p>\n

In this approach we learn to set out clear expectations and consequences and get them to co-operate willingly. Talking and responding in ways that encourage and reinforce good behaviour really works. Managing your kids in this win-win way actually teaches responsibility and builds self-esteem, while avoiding punishment.<\/p>\n

Here are 12 simple parenting tips that with a bit of practise can help build\u00a0a positive parenting style.<\/p>\n

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  1. go down to their eye-level \u2013 this wins their instant attention<\/li>\n
  2. acknowledge their feelings and wishes – without always trying to \u2018fix\u2019<\/li>\n
  3. be clear and enthusiastic – especially in your instructions<\/li>\n
  4. turn daily challenges into a game – when things seem fun everything changes<\/li>\n
  5. watch your tone of voice \u2013 shouting often backfires<\/li>\n
  6. be patient – give them time to respond positively<\/li>\n
  7. offer choices \u2013 this helps kids feel important<\/li>\n
  8. notice and encourage them with words<\/li>\n
  9. make it easy to co-operate \u2013 speak as if they\u2019re already listening<\/li>\n
  10. let them decide \u2013 and face the consequences<\/li>\n
  11. say \u201cplease\u201d and \u201cthank you\u201d \u2013 when kids feel respected co-operation comes naturally<\/li>\n
  12. admit your mistakes \u2013 they\u2019re very forgiving when we\u2019re humble<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Remember sometimes it’s the smallest things that make the biggest difference for them \u2013 a look, a genuine smile, a hug when you notice he’s a bit down, a moment of heartfelt listening. Above all, Carol encourages parents to be patient with themselves and have fun in this process, because when you’re happy, your children are happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Click here<\/strong> <\/a>to read a review of the self esteem game Carol Surya designed called Inner Magic<\/p>\n

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